Why the "New year, new me" diet pattern sucks a little more for introverts.
It’s December (obvi), which means that we are approaching that time where it is tradition that we all decide what in our lives needs to finally be resolved in the year to come.
And of course, the majority of us chooses our health.
Or we think we do anyway.
Something that we have been conditioned to believe is that if we are focusing on weight loss and changing the shape of our bodies to appease societal or even national health standards, we are chasing overall health. And this is SO SO misinformed.
Often what we do is create these new year’s resolutions that focus on our physical, thinking that this alone is our ticket to overall health and resolving all of those insecurities that keep us from doing the things we want to do in our lives.
Two things about this;
Physical health is only a portion of what we should be focusing on for overall health and happiness
The information we have been given on caring for our physical health is all over the map-a lot of it is factually incorrect and often makes us even sicker, and pulls us even further away from what we want.
So basically, despite our best efforts with the tools we have been given..our desire to be the healthiest and happiest version of ourselves in the new year often fails.
Now here is why this is worse for introverts
As a culture, worrying about our bodies has become the norm. What once seemed to be an effort to regulate cardiovascular health has turned into a competition to see who can manipulate their body into having the least amount of fat and visible imperfection the fastest.
And then dieting and fitness turned into a culture, the food and beverage and beauty industries got involved, and now it seems to be a right of passage for us to participate.
As introverts, we are not naturally drawn to competition
...or participating for extended periods of time in group activities
...especially if they involve nothing but surface context
But we also get sick of being called “weird” or “antisocial”
And we struggle with defining that boundary between authenticity and the human need for love and acceptance
We have been taught that love and acceptance comes from the outside
We have also been taught to listen to value the “wisdom” of others over our own
So we do what it takes..and it often feels like shit.
Diet culture is a surface conversation, and we are not beings who like to live on the surface.
As introverts, when we are constantly worried about our bodies..we not only suffer with the same guilt and shame and need for acceptance involved, and food and body image disorders produced, as everyone else...we ALSO have to deal with the fact that in trying to look like/be like/fit in with everyone else, we are resisting our true nature and needs.
We aren’t naturally interested in having conversations about things that aren’t meaningful, like how many calories we ate and burned in a day.
We aren’t naturally interested in competing with other people, so the whole “Oh I wish I looked like her” conversation that is happening WAY too often doesn’t interest us, OR feels even worse for us.
We like to be creative, think deeply and have deep conversations, soul search, evolve, spend time in solitude, pave our own way..
And we can’t do this when we are engaging in a culture that asks us to remain attached to outside resources for happiness and health.
Fitting in with our surroundings is only natural and comfortable for half the population (despite what we have been taught).
“Fitting out” (that I will now forever call it) is a much happier place for the rest of us, and it is just as normal as fitting in.
SO my beautiful introvert, what’s it going to be for you in 2019? Another year of weight and body focused misery? Or the start of something that will support your natural needs, help you heal your relationship with food and your body, and transform your life for the BEST?
Please don’t waste another day trying to thrive in an environment that is toxic to your every beautiful quality
I discovered recently how much relevance my introversion has had in my journey with food and my body. And the more I think about the details of my struggle, the more it makes sense WHY the path I have taken to freedom and confidence has actually worked for me.
If you can relate to any of this AT ALL, I encourage you to check out my Food Freedom & Confidence Power Project-a free video training that covers 3 of the most powerful steps necessary in experiencing self-confidence and healing your relationship with food (especially for the introvert).
I love you, and I’m here for you always
P.S. If you want to find out how you can work with me 1:1 to transform your relationship with food and your body in the new year, click here.